At the beginning of the year, the guidance counselor read another book called tattlin madeline which the kids also enjoyed, and it worked for a little while. When i teach lessons to students about tattling and telling, i break it down for them by explaining. Telling isnt tattling by kathryn m hammerseng, dave garbot. Hammerseng found in the teachers professional library. A child who has been drilled to follow rules takes them very seriously, leading them to tattling on friends and siblings no matter how minor the misbehavior. Jan 26, 2010 telling on others can be a way kids protect themselves. See more ideas about school counseling, classroom behavior, classroom management. How to explain the difference between telling and tattling. The program features a wisecracking animated wise owl who tells viewers that if they want to figure out the difference between telling and tattling, they should ask themselves his four whoo questions.
Dealing with tattling ideas for teaching, resources for. Telling isnt tattling is an awesome paper back book. Explain the difference between tattling and telling. Jacketflap connects you to the work of more than 200,000 authors, illustrators, publishers and other creators of books for children and young adults. When adult intervention is needed, telling is important. About a year ago during recess, i was standing beside our firstgrade teacher, mrs. And ultimately, we want to empower children to be able to solve small problems on their own.
Earn money by sharing your favorite books through our affiliate program. Tattling a bad case of tattle tongue by julia cook telling isnt tattling by kathryn m. First, ask her what she thinks her siblings feel when they hear her tattle. Unless the guy is actually hourly and is blatantly lying about the hours he is being paid for, then its really not your concern. Step 1 is all about establishing what tattling is and isnt.
A commonsense approach to protecting children and teaching. Knudsen all the wrongs another student was currently committing. First, brainstorm with your class a list of things that are important to tell the teacher. Hammerseng 1995, trade paperback at the best online prices at ebay. If youre exhausted from students constantly tattling on each other and what elementary school teacher isnt. It wasnt nice of her to say, but rhonda is not hurting tina. Sorting out tattling from necessary truth telling is something for which employees should be.
Maggie isnt hurting keisha by rolling her eyes at her. Tattling tips and solutions the cornerstone for teachers. First, lets define the difference between tattling and telling. In the book, the berenstain bears learn about strangers, brother bear gets upset with sister bear because he feels like she is tattling on him. Davon was pushed to the ground and could have been hurt. It has short vignettes dealing with situations at home, school and the community that encourages the reader to prompt studentschildren to determine if the individual in the story is telling or tattling. Mar 19, 2015 this to me would be considered tattling. If so, then reporting his or her behaviour promptly is never tattling its telling.
Its important to explain the difference between tattling and telling. Hammerseng, k 1995 telling isnt tattling parenting press, inc. Alternatives to tattling and additional suggestions for telling are included. The dynamics of tattling by mary beth hewitt this article is reprinted here with the permission of mary beth hewitt. If he isnt getting his work done, thats on his manager to worry about. Tackling tattling in the classroom createabilities.
There is a difference between tattling and telling. However, there are some tips you can follow to manage tattling. Speaking up about being bullied isnt tattling and our. Originally published in choices volume 1 see the bottom of this page jerry budged in line. Telling my boss about it wouldve equated to senseless whining, something that isnt often desired or respected anywhere. Dave garbot is a published author and an illustrator of childrens books. How to tattle at work without being a tattletale the muse. Picture books can be a great way to teach students how to deal with tattling. You can tell your children its not okay to tattle, but the only way for them to truly get the message is to back that up with action. Dave garbot is the illustrator of 365 wacky, wonderful ways to get your children to do what you want, taking no for an answer, telling isnt tattling, and temperament tools. Tattling by joy wilt berry and a great selection of related books, art and collectibles available now at. See more ideas about books, abuse prevention, sexual abuse.
Jun 18, 2020 the difference between telling and tattling should be based purely on matters of safety. If they refuse to go tell on themselves, the first child goes to mom and tells her, johnny won tell you something. Jun 04, 2012 tattling is a problem faced by parents and teachers alike, with children kindergarten age and beyond. I rediscovered another great series of books from when i was a child. Book, paperback kathryn hammerseng, dave garbot free shipping shop for. Think of a time when someone in your class told the teacher something. Hammerseng and a great selection of related books, art and collectibles available now at. Ive noticed that one of the best ways to keep kids from tattling is to teach them about telling. Momma bear puts a stop to their argument and explains that sister bear wasnt tattling she was telling what happened because she was worried and upset. A book to teach young children how to resist uncomfortable touch.
And so, out of fear, they make the unfortunate decision to try to go it alone which is. Even when tattling happens, you can continue to build a trusting relationship in the. Telling isnt tattling by kathryn m hammerseng paperback. It has short vignettes dealing with situations at home, school and the community that encourages the. This book helps children learn when to tell an adult they need help, and when to deal with problems themselves. Give some hypothetical examples and ask your children to label them as telling or tattling, to. Program includes followup class activities to reinforce the programs concepts. Hammerseng present your kids with examples from this book that will help them differentiate between tellingreport and tattling. Have students differentiate between tattling and telling. Alternatives to tattling and additional suggestions for telling round out each story.
Apr 23, 2020 but dont reward her for tattling on trivial issues or herald her as the hero, and instead address her own tattle telling habits as well. Book recommendations updated 201920 welcome to the. What tattling is and isnt when youre trying to curb tattling in your classroom there are 3 easy steps you can take to ensure success for your students. We certainly dont want to encourage an influx of tattling in our classrooms, or in our homes there just isnt time. This text also teaches when its appropriate to resolve conflicts among peers and when to seek the assistance of adults. Here are the questions i addressed in this 15 minute broadcast. If we cant stop them before they tattle, and the person isnt about to get hurt but is clearly breaking a family rule, we cant follow through with the normal consequences. Its about harmless behaviors that often dont need the help of an. Hammerseng is a former director of a child care program. Bullybusting curriculum six essential lessonsfollow up. Even though these examples used the word telling, theyre examples of tattling to be hurtful, not telling to be helpful or to get help. Share action steps your child can take if they experience bullying, starting with telling an adult.
The a bad case of tattle tongue game show is an interactive, quizshow style book study lesson based on julia cooks popular book. This engaging video or dvd combines animation and liveaction segments to help young viewers understand the difference between tattling which aims to land someone else in trouble and telling which aims to help someone solve a problem. A book narrated its about a classroom of pigs who are figuring out what. Adults often encourage kids to tell when they are being bullied or when they see others being bullied. And if the adult says, im tired of all this tattling. Here is the question, if you really liked bob, would you still be telling his manager.
When little kids tattle you will not be able to prevent tattling altogether, advises dr. Is another child acting in a way that might harm either another person, an animal, or someones property. When the student finished listing all the perceived errors this other student was carrying out during recess, mrs. As jeff stated, viewing telling as something that results in the greater good verses tattling as resulting in personal gain is a great way to make the distinction. Helping kids learn the difference between tattling and telling julia cook 2. Lets talk about tattling a book for children youtube. Give some hypothetical examples and ask your children to label them as telling or tattling, to make sure they understand the difference. Ultimately, it helps children learn when to tell an adult that they need help and when to deal with a problem themselves, and it. As a summer playground leader, i used to say to the kids, unless shes hurting you, herself, or someone else, i dont want to hear about it. Deciding whether to tattle isnt as simple as it sounds. Many kids worry that they may be called a tattletale or worse. Many children and adults occasionally have trouble differentiating between telling on someone and tattling.
The site is updated daily with information about every book, author, illustrator, and publisher in the childrens young adult book industry. Kids are reluctant to tell adults because they dont want to be called a tattle tale. Telling isnt tatt ling is part of parenting presss wellrespected childrens safety collection. Strangely enough, figuring out difference between tattling and telling is not so much about looking at the words that we use. Mom disciplines for not coming to tell because its a matter of family trust. It is a typical behavior for youngsters and you should expect small amounts of tattling.
Home books telling isnt tattling what is jacketflap. How to stop tattling in your kids sleeping should be easy. Many children and adults occasionally have trouble differentiating. Telling is actually telling something of importance. See more ideas about classroom behavior, school counseling, classroom management. Tattling vs telling teaching the difference mommy moment. After you acknowledge her feelings, explain why tattle telling isnt always the best solution. Telling on someone has developed such a negative connotation that it is hard to help children understand the difference between tattling and telling. It also helps adults understand when to pay attention to kids requests for help. This resource presents typical examples of children telling or tattling, and. Helping kids learn the difference between tattling and telling by julia cook, dont squeal unless. This resource presents typical examples of children telling or tattling, and asks young readers to judge whether the characters are tattling or telling. Other titles include its my body, protect your child from sexual abuse, something happened and im scared to tell, helping abused children, loving touches, something is wrong at my house, the trouble with secrets and kids to the rescue.
Keep in mind, though, that lots of grownups can get confused about the difference between tattling and telling, so when a young person wants to get help from an adult, its wise to use a voice thats low, clear, and calm. Ultimately, it helps children learn when to tell an adult that they need help and when to deal with a problem themselves, and it teaches adults about when to pay attention to. Helping kids learn the difference between tattling and telling julia. You can tame tattling and communicate the importance of telling by teaching children the difference between tattling and telling.
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